I Am Complete

Bismillahir-Rahmanir-Raheem.


There was a time I thought I needed a companion to complete me. I felt incomplete, as if a part of me was missing. For some reason I thought I needed that companion to make me whole. You know what that can lead to? I was left feeling I needed "a person" to make me happy. I thought my happiness would be incomplete without "that" person. and for every moment I thought that, I suffered. I felt lonely, (maybe even depressed). It took a while, but perhaps Allah, the almighty, The Most wise wanted me to learn the hard way (Since that's how most lessons I learn tend to stick longer), and I learnt.

It was a phase, But I did learn, that when you turn to a person or a material to give you happiness, that might be short lived but all it would cause you is pain.

I did learn, that nothing can ever make you feel complete if you do not have Allah, and that even when you have not a single thing or person in this world, once you have Allah, you are whole (with even extra parts...hehe). You have everything you ever needed & would ever need and more. You have a Lord who is most merciful, who never ever ever turns away from you when you call out to Him, humbled before Him. You have a master, who is willing and telling you that He would give you anything that you wish to have, if that's what is best for you, as long as you JUST ask. Subhanallah!  Allah says in the Qur'an:

"And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me - indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me. So let them respond to Me [by obedience] and believe in Me that they may be [rightly] guided."

You have a creator who guides you despite the amount of times you have sinned and and disobeyed Him right IN FRONT of Him. How many humans would stick around you when you do what doesn't please them?! Exactly. I thought so as well. Almost none.  (to mention but a few). So which of the favours of our Lord shall we deny?

Alhamdulillah. Then I had my priorities mixed up. I had placed my dependence in the absolutely wrong place and it only caused me pain. But now, alhamdulillah, now I feel whole. And you know what happens when finally you turn to Allah? When you depend on Him alone? When you strive ( even though you might continuously fall at some point) to do only what pleases Allah and stay away from what displeases Him? You find peace. The kind of peace that calms your whole being; Your mind, body and soul. And once you taste that sweetness of being aware of Allah, it becomes all you would want to have, and it would  disturb you greatly when you are away from it.

So now, I see marriage, not for what I saw it before. Marriage to be sought for the pleasure of Allah, to complete half of one's religion, and to protect oneself from falling into "major sin". Even though, Allah, out of His infinite mercy, has placed a lot of bonuses in marriage. A companion and a friend, mutual love between spouses, off-springs that would be the coolness of one's eyes (and much much more), alhamdulillah. Indeed, Allah does spread His signs around for those who reflect.

"And among His Signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He put love and mercy between your hearts. Verily in that are Signs for those who reflect." [Sûrah Rûm: 21]"

I know however, that nothing would stop me from departing from this world without it. But then again, if one strives to please Allah in this life, Allah would grant them much much more blessings and rewards than one can ever imagine in Jannah, and everything you would ever want, would be at your disposal. If you can think of it, then you can get it. Glory be to Allah for the blessings of Islam.

" No human can find happiness in any place except in what they are naturally inclined to;  In worshipping Allah."